Orgasm Issues RevHEALed


Maybe you’ve never had an orgasm, maybe you don’t know if you’ve had one, maybe you’ve had one but can relive it, or just maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who can orgasm at the drop of a dime.  Whatever the case may be, there is always room for growth!  The following link (unfortunately I can’t reproduce in this space, Jujumama don’t play lol) is Kenya K. Stevens‘ personal account of her orgasmic experiences, and sheds light on the Top Five Reasons Many Women Don’t Orgasm.  You may just learn a thing or two!

Kenya describes herself as a Best Selling Author, Blogger, and Relationships Mogul among many things.  Her website is dope (I’m in a fun mood;-), and any sister that supports “…millions of women in reawakening to Feminine Joy” is alright with me!


In Love, Truth, and Orgasmic Bliss,


Understanding the power of ENERGY

This blog, in it’s entirety, is dedicated to all of the beauty and power found within energy.  I’ve always held the belief, though only until recently understood why, we have supernatural abilities as humans, and furthermore, as women, harnessing faculties that no other being is capable of.  So why then, are we not making things disappear and reappear, flying around in the blue lit sky, and walking through fire?  Or are we?

This post is a gift to anyone who is open to finding and nurturing the energy within.  My mother always told me that if you think bad things, bad things happen, and if you think good things, good things happen.  This was her simple way of communicating to me, whether she knew it or not, that energy has manifesting properties, and that deep within us lie dormant, psychic potential.  It’s time to scrap the negative connotation associated with the word “psychic”, and realize that it is not up to anyone other than ourselves to bring our most intimate visions into fruition.  If we have the power to realize our fears, shouldn’t we then be able realize our dreams? 

The following articles speak directly to the powers of energy, and more specifically, feminine energy. We are doing ourselves and the rest of the world a huge disservice by ignoring these powers.  Tanya Patton of the blog Yoni Sutra, writes beautifully and has a real gift.  She provides the opportunity to learn from her, but as she also mentions, each of us already has the capacity.  I don’t know Tanya, have not worked with her or used any of her services. But what I do know is that she speaks much truth on the subject of energy, and is an exceptional artist, so I just had to share the wisdom!

In Love, Truth, and Realization,


Is Your Pussy Psychic? by Tanya Patton

by yonisutra in Feminine Energy

OM. Oil on canvas. 6×9 ft. Artist Tanya P.

There is a lot of misinformation circulating around about what it means to be psychic.  Just to give a little clarity, here are a few examples of what psychic energy is and how it works:

  • In 2007, there was a large scale Tsunami in Indonesia.  The animals and the indigenous people all fled to the mountains.  They were able to ‘sense’ that Mother Nature was about to deliver something that they did not want to be a part of.
  • From 1850 to 1869, Harriet Tubman freed hundreds of slaves.  (She said that she would have been able to free even more if they would have only realized that they were slaves).  Of course, there was the underground railroad, abolitionists and the North Star helping her to find her way, but obviously there had to be something else.
  • A young mother doses off while driving, but manages to wake up in time to swerve her vehicle to the next lane, managing to avoid an impending collision.

What do all of these examples have in common?  In each case, these people were accessing a part of themselves that is beyond the physical senses.  They were using what you could call a 6th sense.  The indigenous people and Harriet Tubman had no college education, no metaphysical training or followed no dogma or philosophy. They definitely did not make a deal with the devil.   If  you were to talk to those people of Indonesia, they would not attribute their good fortune to the Lord.  They would simply tell you that they ‘knew’ something was coming, that they were able to ‘sense’ change.

So what is this  6th sense? It is the ability to sense or know something without having the aid of your five senses.  However, it is not a gift that can only be accessed by some.  Nor it is a form of  “devil worship”.  It is simply an awareness of energy.

How it all works?

We are all made up of electromagnetic energy.  This should be apparent based on the times when you felt a shock from being in contact with some other electrical device or when you feel that tingle surge throughout your entire body when you see a really cute guy.  In fact, each and every one of us is operating on over 25,000 volts of electric energy — enough to light up the entire city of New York.   We are all energy powerhouses.  As such, we are all sending out powerful vibrations or frequencies all of the time.   If you are angry, you are emitting a powerful frequency.  Everyone around you picks up on this frequency, whether you are aware of it or not.

A vibration is simply an energy frequency.  It is called a vibration because this energy is vibrating at a certain length, speed and intensity.  Pure vibration moves extremely fast. When you slow it down a bit, you can see a color.  If you slow it down even more, you can see a picture.  This is basically the science behind television.  Vibration is converted into a picture.  It is also the basic science behind your thoughts and your emotions.  When you are thinking or feeling a certain thing you emit a frequency into your environment.  People who are ‘psychic’ can tune into this vibration, slow it down and show you how this particular frequency would look if it was formed into a picture.

Everyone is psychic.  Everyone is sensing the vibrations around them all the time.  People who consider themselves psychic are simply aware of this phenomenom.  People who are not become victims to the vibratory environment that they are in at the time.

And while the average person walking down the street may not be aware of their psychic powers, there are many, many people who are.  The woman with the crystal ball only makes up a small percentage of practicing psychics.  Most of the people using their psychic energy do not work at the county fair, but in much higher places.  Psychics of today are politicians, media moguls, advertising execs and entertainers.  These are the people who have studied vibratory science, and in most cases are using it as a form of manipulation and control.

If a certain frequency is emitted into the atmosphere, a certain picture is going to be created.  Remember a picture is a vibration that is moving at a slower frequency — like TV.  So if you are walking down the street late at night and you start imagining that you might get attacked or mugged,  there is a possibility that you are picking up on  a frequency.  If you have never been mugged before and you are not usually the type of person who thinks scary thoughts, more than likely, you are picking up on  a frequency that was purposely emitted to create fear pictures in your imagination.  If you are living in an environment where most people are imagining fearful things, then more than likely this frequency is being strategically emiitted over your entire community.   If all of this stayed in your mind it would be one thing.  But once you start vibrating at a particular frequency, you are going to attract frequencies that match.  If you are constantly vibrating at, ” I will be mugged”, then at some point you will attract a person who is vibrating at, ” I want to mug somebody”.

The following tactic also works in reverse.  If the media or world leader paints a picture of fear or depression or unemployment, and you are able to recreate this image in your mind, then that means that, at that moment, you are also vibrating at the frequency of  this negative picture.  Now,  when you go to look for a job, you are vibrating at ‘unemployment’.  If this is the case, you will constantly be overlooked because in order to find work, you must be vibrating at ‘employment’.

What does all of this have to do with your pussy?

Just in case  you have not already read the post on “How to Hypnotize Your Man”, I will briefly go over the difference between masculine and feminine energy.  Feminine energy is magnetic and receptive.  It attracts things to it.  Masculine energy is active and dynamic.  It asserts and pushes.  What this means is that men are more likely to react to psychic energy.  If a man feels a certain vibration, say of fear, he is more likely to react to the fear by fighting, yelling or any number of things.

Women, being receptive, are more likely to absorb this energy.  This energy is absorbed on all levels, especially by the female organs.  This is interesting when you consider the staggering number of young black women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer, cervical cancer and  fibroid tumors.  The numbers are truly astounding.  In fact, almost every black woman personally knows someone who is, or has been, afflicted with some reproductive or breast disorder.

Our pussies have become the breeding ground for psychic attack.  The  reproductive disorders some of us are experiencing  is simply the absorption of negative vibration that needs to be released.  Sadly, many women are so frightened by their psychic ability that they are unaware of their power  to sense and repel unwanted vibrations.  Instead, most women are more likely to passively accept all the vibrations around them as their own and end up getting sick, depressed or burnt out as a result.

Your pussy is psychic.  Even without getting a professional psychic reading, you can pretty much get a benchmark of your vibrational frequency by paying attention to the men that you are sexually attracted to.  If you feel a strong lust for a particular man, or a particular type of man, you can be pretty certain that he is matching your dominant vibration.  This is really good information considering the absorbing nature of feminine energy.  If a person who is running mainly masculine energy is angry, it will become apparent rather quickly because they will do something physically or verbally violent.  If a person who is running off of feminine energy is angry, it might not be so apparent even to her.  Since this energy is absorbed, it is more likely that this person will feel attacked on the inside — in the form of illness, depression or apathy.  What this means is that if you are sexually attracted to a man who likes to sleep around and already has 4 baby mama’s, then your pussy may be trying to tell you that you are vibrating at the frequency of  ‘low self-worth or low self-respect”.  If you are sexually attracted to a man who is overly aggressive, then  maybe your pussy is trying to tell you that your dominant vibration is  ‘weak’ or ‘abused’.

If you would like personal information on your own particular energy vibration, I am available for psychic consultations.  It may be especially helpful to get a reading if you are experiencing any reproductive disorders or would like a general overview of how your feminine energy is operating

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by yonisutra in Feminine Energy

Concubine. Oil on canvas. 5×9 ft. Artist Tanya P.

First of all, I would like to start out by saying that I am not a relationship theorist. I am not propogating gender roles or any type of roles. I think each person should be free to be herself.

What I do want to talk about is energy and how it works – especially as it relates to romantic attraction.

We all know women who do everything “right”. They cook. They clean. They always look good. They give their man head whenever he requests it. And still, they get cheated on. Or dumped. Or worse.

And then there are those women who don’t seem to put that much effort into their relationship at all, and their man still follows them around like a puppy dog. There are even those women (who the rest of us hate) who do despicable things like sleep with their man’s best friend or charge up $5000 on his credit card and still manages to get treated as good as ever!

What is the differentce in these women? Clearly, it is not their actions. If that was the case, we could all follow some magic formula and live happily ever after. What is it then?


All matter is made up of feminine and masculine energy. This includes people, dogs, cats, rocks and skyscrapers Feminine energy carries a negative charge. It pulls things in towards it. It is magnetic. It is hypnotic. It is receptive. It is stable.

Masculine energy carries a positive charge. It is the complement to feminine energy in the sense that it is active and dynamic. It prefers assertion over magnetism. It prefers to act as opposed to attract. Masculine energy is extremely attracted to feminine energy and vice versa.

What does this all of this have to do with you and your man? Well, if you are a woman, then your body contains more feminine energy than masculine energy. When you are operating from your feminine energy, it will be nearly impossible for your man to resist you because his energy will be so powerfully drawn to yours. Remember, feminine energy is magnetic. When you are operating from feminine energy, you literally becomee like a magnet for your man. He CANNOT resist you!

I am a person who reads energy. All of us are made up of a combination of matter and energy. People are judging you based on your energy all the time, whether you are aware of it or not. You have had a friend who doesn’t look as good as you, but for some reason gets way more (and better) attention from the opposite sex . The same thing happens with the pretty girl who hasn’t had a date in 3 years. There is something about their energy signature that is overriding their physical characteristics.

What I do specifically, is help you to recognize your feminine energy so that you can use it to hypnotize your man. Put him under your spell! I will look at your relationship on an energetic level and give you practical steps on how you can manipulate the energy in your relationship so that you become untterly irrestible to your man.

Some of you may be thinking that it is not nice to hypnotize people, especially without their consent. Admittedly, a reading like this will give you an unfair advantage. It will make your man adore you, praise you, maybe even wash your feet from time to time. Your friends will enviously wonder what your man sees in you – they will notice that you don’t do any of the back flips that they have to do to keep their man happy. Yet and still, he treats you like a Queen. A Goddess.

Admittedly, there is something noble about compromise and sharing every little secret and thought with your man. It is a bit courageous to endure the suffering and pain that can sometimes be experienced in a relationship and become a stronger person because of it.

With that said, this reading isn’t for everyone. If you are a person who is a staunch believer in equality and fair play – I commend you. If, however, you are a woman who has given much and is ready to receive for a change. If you are a woman who feels that you deserve to be treated like a queen because you are. If you are a woman who just likes being a little naughty from time to time…this reading is for you!

Tanya Patton is an astrologist, artist and energy healer.  She specializes in assisting women tap into the full potential of their feminine energy.

To contact Tanya, or to receive more information about healings, readings or artwork, click here.

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Spiritual Polygyny: An Opinion PEACE on a Different Kind of Love

In my first post on this blog, the topic of polygyny was introduced to support the case for sisterhood.  In that post however, I asked that sisters not focus on polygyny, but rather the message of the importance of embracing the feminine energy.  However, some sisters found it challenging to overlook its mention, which opened the box for further discussion on relationships, commitment, sexuality, marriage, polygamy and polyamory, and gender roles.  For me this was a great step forward: having sisters who were open to dialogue around what is often seen as a taboo topic.

With that said, I would like to take the time to revisit polygyny from MY INSIGHT, and use this as a safe space to discuss the aspects, benefits, and setbacks to different lifestyle choices, and perhaps offer a different perspective.  All opinions are welcomed!  In the spirit of true sisterhood, agreement is not necessary to personal growth, but understanding  and respect are key.  Please keep all comments as a reflection of the heart!

In Love and Truth,


Written by A.K.S.

Dynamic Relationships

First, I would like to offer a few traditional definitions and distinctions between various unions:

1.) Polygamy- a general term used to refer to marriage between a man or a woman with multiple spouses.

2.) Polygyny- marriage between a man and two or more wives.

3.) Polyandry- marriage between a woman and two or more husbands.

4.) Monogamy- marriage between two people (traditionally, a man and a woman).

5.) Polyamory- a general term used to refer to partnership between three or more spouses (regardless of gender or marital status).

6.) Open relationship- a general term used when a union between two people is open for either partner to engage in relationships (sexual, emotional, and/or spiritual) with one or more additional people.

*All of the above unions [should] have an overarching expectation of honesty and/or fidelity, in traditional terms.  The unfortunate reality is that often (though not always), they do not…

Spiritual Polygyny

Ok, now that we have semantics out of the way (and feel free to add,  subtract, or change as you see fit), I would like to talk about Polygyny from a non-religious perspective (in this case, spiritual polygyny), as it pertains to nation building, sisterhood, and discuss some of the misconceptions, and highlight a few of the benefits.  Note that I will not discuss the disadvantages as they are more likely than not to be understood as opposites of the benefits (in layman’s terms: most will already have the disadvantages lined up in their heads;-).  Choosing to approach this particular lifestyle from a non-relgious perspective is important specifically for American culture because 1.) Plural marriage is illegal in this country (and void in the eyes of our political system) 2.) Plural relationship can be spiritual without being religious, and 3.) Polygyny (as well as other forms of polygamy), is already happening in many monogamous marriages and relationships in an untrue form (dishonesty or “cheating”), whether we like it, admit it, or not.

From my perspective, Spiritual Polygyny is a choice that not everyone can or should make.  It takes a certain man, first of all, to elect to love infinitely, communicate effectively, and lead with integrity.  There is NO room for the EGO in a polygynous family unit, as an enlightened and ever growing spirit is connected to all life, both within and outside of self.  A man who has chosen to surround himself with more than one wife has embraced a responsibility to care for and empower a strong, stable, and spiritually intuitive family unit.  He understands and uplifts his wives in all of their glory, and is able to do so simultaneously.  He is conscious of the necessity of the nurturing qualities of women in order to birth new life.  A man interested in living a polygynous lifestyle has a desire to be a King, knows he is worthy, surrounds himself by like minds, and is only interested in laying a foundation for a strong family for generations to come.  It is not about the physical realm of sex (but rather that is a benefit), but very much about building a Kingdom, rising in awareness and wisdom, and strengthening the greater community.

When it comes to the women in this lifestyle, it also takes a certain essence.  A woman who has broken free from the program of society; is knowledgeable, and confident in her ability and worth, and is open to sharing her wisdom, her love, and ultimately her King.  It takes a certain feminine energy, one that is slow to anger, and gives no power to jealousy or envy for she knows her own value.  I often hear women say that a woman who can share her man has little self worth.  This notion couldn’t be further from reality in a spiritually polygynous relationship!  A woman who understands her power does not need to compete, but rather embraces the opportunity to work in cohesion with her sister(s) in furtherance of family.  She also understand that love knows no bounds; so while she may not love her sister sexually, is completely open to rising in love and likewise uplifting in love those women who are closest to her, and any woman with whom she may encounter.   This lifestyle will not flourish if the women are envious, catty or spiteful, or do not value themselves as a necessary component to the larger family unit.  All in all, our responsibility is balance, nurture, and the continuance of life.


There are some common misconceptions that often prevent any understanding from taking place from a person who has been programmed by the status quo.  Considering that the examples we have of polygamous relationships are that of religious circles (for instance Big Love and Sister Wives in popular culture and the Prophet Elijah Muhammad and his many wives), and the infidelity that occurs in monogamous relationships, it makes perfect sense why one would initially be opposed to embracing this lifestyle.   Aside from these misconceptions, there is also the belief that sharing is either wrong, too difficult, or unhealthy, and of course if you are approaching this lifestyle from your current comfortably programmed state, then yes, it may seem that way.  But if you are fortunate enough to encounter spiritual polygyny, you will come to understand that love is limitless, and when all involved are spiritually synchronized, polygynous love (in particular) can be very healthy, fulfilling, and easy (cue Minnie Ripperton!).  Yes, every kind of relationship comes with it’s challenges, and those challenges persist and/or grow when careful attention is not given, communication and honesty are lacking, and your soul is weak.  No, your children will not automatically be polygamous.  Just like you, they are quite capable of forming their own thoughts and opinions about the type of relationship they will embrace.  If your home is positive and peaceful, that should be your hope for them!

Advantages to Spiritual Polygyny 

This section is written in reference to advantages for the sister considering spiritual polygyny simply because this blog is dedicated the feminine essence.  Of course, there are benefits for the brothers as well, but that can be a discussion for another time!  I am compelled to write in list format for this section, mostly because it is visually appealing.  It also gives hope that more benefits can be added by anyone who has experienced and flourished in spiritual polygyny:

-You are royalty and are spiritually connected to a strong, loving King

-You are cared for and honored by your King and your Sister-Queens

-Abundant feminine energy creates a nurturing atmosphere

-There is always support, for example: emotional support or help around the “house”

-Time is freed up for you to pursue and/or birth your personal goals

-“The village” raises the children

-Finances become one, and the “family business” flourishes

-There is no expectation to be “everything” (so you can hone in on what you like or are good at)

-When you are tired physically, you can rest your body (from work, chores, and even sex)

-You know who will care for your King in your absence

-You don’t have to birth ALL the children, but can embrace many more as your own

-The children will have multiple role models and an abundance of love and affection

-You can share yours’ and your sister’s things (clothes, jewelry, ideas, secrets)

-Spiritual growth will happen naturally as you no longer quantify love, but understand it as      unconditional, universal, and limitless

-You are surrounded daily by a group of loving, supportive, and entrusting family (you are needed,  desired)


The Case for Feminine Energy

For me, spiritual polygyny makes the most sense. As I mentioned before, I am a firm believer in the power of the feminine energy, and find it absolutely necessary to the continuance of life. When embraced, this energy balances, calms, multiplies, and nurtures. Masculine energy is also very important, but has a natural tendency to divide, conquer, and lead. Both energies have their strong and weak qualities. But masculine energy when brought together and not balanced by the feminine leads to chaos (our current human circumstance). So while I don’t judge others who lead a different polygamous lifestyle (i.e. in the name of religion, or polyamory), I am only content to have one leader of my household–my King–and plan to nurture and uplift him as I best I can. I feel it’s no coincidence that nature is a Mother, as that essence produces life;-)

In my opinion, polyamory and open relationships are often a solution for people with issues committing. For whatever reason, they are not comfortable with being with the same people (person) in a spiritually binding union, and are contented to change partners as often as desired.  It certainly is a choice, and we are all free to choose.  This is simply something I have noticed to be the norm in these particular relationships.

Polyandry is a rare situation in nature (be it human or other living organisms), and in my opinion should be embraced with the utmost caution, and not by the mainstream as it only occurs in nature in special cases, usually dealing population incongruencies.  My findings are that women more often than not, have a desire to be with one man at a time, and while she may ultimately have many lovers, is not interested in or finds it difficult to balance a multitude of masculine energy, as her own feminine energy risks being overpowered.   Bare in mind that is not an absolute, and that there are always exceptions to any rule.  However, I will say proceed with care in a polyandrous lifestyle.


I know there are people out there pretending to be polygynous, practicing, or calling their relationships polygyny in the name of religion or ego (<—purely carnal or physical), but I want to go on record for saying that there is a difference between polygamy, and what others may refer to as Spiritual polygyny.  My hope is that you now have (if nothing else) a basic working knowledge of plural unions, and that you can understand why more and more women are electing a polygynous lifestyle.  I personally respect that this type of union is NOT for everyone, and that there is diversity of thought.   However, I believe that it truly takes a certain man and certain women (all very aware and willing to grow, communicate, and be honest without remorse) to make something like this work. Our society as a whole is not there, but who knows?  Maybe one day in addition to fighting for same sex marriage, we will also advocate for the recognition of plural unions…

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